Four Reasons Why Personal Development is So Difficult

Those who know me are aware that I am immensely interested in personal development—especially on a spiritual level. I love to read, study, talk and write about all things regarding this subject. I get an enormous level of satisfaction from it. But to be honest, those who know me best know that I don’t always walk my talk. And in my defense I’d like to say: “This stuff isn’t easy!” 

Sometimes even making the smallest of changes can seem like climbing an icy mountain slope. I make some headway only to fall back again. It kind of goes like this:  I go to an exciting new workshop, or read a book or watch a great video. I get inspired and pumped up. Eager to try out the new strategies, I head out into the day. It works for a while, but then the energy around it seems to fade and I fail miserably as old habits, old patterns and old thinking kick in. Intellectually I know that the information is sound but practically…?

So why is this stuff so hard? And it doesn’t have to be just about spiritual goals. Any life-changing goal can be tough to accomplish. Maybe you want to lose a few pounds, run a marathon, or write a book. We all have dreams—changes we want to make in our lives but so many of us don’t follow through. Why?

Here are four of the less obvious things that can get in the way of spiritual development or any major change you might be working towards.

1)     Over Intellectualizing the Process 

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When we set out to achieve any goal or to make any change, we tend to collect as much data about the subject as we can. We read up on it, cross reference, do histories, tests, the list goes on.  

And maybe that’s the first thing that makes personal development so hard. We collect so much information that we displace our energy. Let me explain:  

To gather information about anything we have to go outside ourselves. That’s fine, to a point. Over intellectualizing makes the process external instead of internal (spiritual), as we pull from outside sources to rationalize the problem.

Major changes must contain an element of spirituality for them to work. And spirituality has very little to do with information, strategies or techniques (which are all outside sources). For this reason, I’ve come to realize that treating any  growth as an intellectual exercise is counterproductive. Self-improvement goals and especially spirituality are (by nature) very esoteric. They can’t be explained or planned—definitely not in a strategic way. They do not function in a “Step A, B and C Format”.  So get the information, use it and move on. Don’t get suck in “data-mode”.

2)     Not Making a Commitment

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If you aren’t willing to make a commitment nothing is going to happen.  A commitment has real power—magic if you will. It’s more than a decision, or a vague wish.  It occurs at the soul—at your very core. 

Commit not only to making the change but rather to “becoming” that change and allowing it to embody who you are in all situations.  Until then your growth will crawl at a snail’s pace.

Commitment is the gas in the motor. Without it we can’t power our goals and dreams. Without the power of commitment, the detrimental power of our preexisting habits, beliefs and thinking will literally overwhelm the change we’re trying to do before it can germinate. Believe me, I know.     

Goethe once wrote:

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back– Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.”

3)     Failing to Stay Present and Aware

As I’ve written before, awareness is kind of like finding your spot on a GPS screen. It not only tells you where you are, but more importantly, where you are in relation to everything else.

For me, awareness means two things: “Seeing” and “Understanding”.

The first part: seeing, is pretty simple. It’s more of an inventory exercise than anything else.  Figure out where you are and where you are going.  

The second part: understanding, grows and evolves out of seeing. Not only do you know where you are, but now you have an understanding of “why” you are there. And (perhaps) why you want to get from where you are to where you’re going.

(For more on Awareness click here and here.)

4)     Lack of Focus

Give your full attention to your dream or goal. Focus on the goal to the exclusion of all else. Think, read, and talk about it—become it. Make it a part of you and it will become a part of who you are. Then it transforms from an idea a wish to a reality.

I’d like to say that it’s that easy: Just don’t over-think things, commit, keep present and aware and stay focused and presto-chango you’re a new person. But we all know saying is easier than doing. Understand that this “soul-work” is hard. It takes real effort. Change is never easy. You have to want it—really want it.Think of it this way: everything you currently are night now—the person you are—is the product of all your past actions, beliefs, daily routines and habits. And you have spent a life-time developing those things. That was hard work. It will take even more hard work, focus and effort to create new routines, beliefs and habits that will, in turn, create the person you wish to become and achieve the things you desire. 

Yes, personal development is hard, but it may be the most rewarding thing you will ever do.

Kick-Start Your Dreams…Today!

We all have dreams—things we want to do, things we want to have. They might be big, loud, amazing things that will turn the world upside-down or they might be whisper-quiet, reserved only for you and you alone—but no less amazing. 

So if we all dream, why do so few of us actually ever see our dreams come true? 

It is all about luck? Are some of us more talented or smarter? Maybe it’s about education? Maybe God loves some of us more than others?  I don’t think so. Dream achievers are no luckier, loved or learned than the rest of us.  If you were to study all the dreamers who had ever made a dream come true, you would see that they all did it the same way—they started. 

Just Start

Yep. If you want to do something, just do it—start it. I know that sounds cliché if not incredibly impractical. “How am I supposed to just start?” you ask.  Well, you take an action—any action; something that breaks you out of your regular routine and moves you toward the dream. The Tao says to simply take the first step. Read a book about it, research it, write it down–anything!

That first step is so very important because it represents the primary domino in you reaching your dream. Even if, at this point, you may not even have a plan. 

High achievers don’t concern themselves with all the weight of how to do something. They just do it. They don’t say things like: “I’ll start tomorrow.”, or “I don’t have enough money.” or “What if it doesn’t work?” or  “Nobody has ever done it before.” They just do

You don’t have to know how you are going to do something, you just have to start. The how’s will reveal themselves along the way.  

Rumi once wrote: “As you start to walk on the way, the way appears.”    

                            
If you never take action (that first step) you will never get started and your dream will stay a dream.

Non-starting is biggest of dream-killers. You have to take the first step. Be prepared to make some mistakes. Learn. Pick yourself up and move on. Start again if you have to. But start!   

In the Moment, Aware and Mindful

If you follow my blog or have read my book, “My Happy Workplace” you know that most of my writing invites you to accept responsibility for your own happiness. And nothing does this better than being mindful.  But to enter a state of mindfulness we have to first be present and aware.

The art of being “present” allows us a high level of focus. This focus anchors us to wherever we are and to whatever we are doing in any given moment. It also protects us from the worry of the future or the regret of the past. From this present-moment perceptive we are better positioned to ward off all that stuff we don’t want that can trigger unhappiness. So, in a way, the Present puts us in the right place to be able to solve the problem.

Once in the present moment we are more likely to move into a state of “awareness”. Now, awareness provides us the opportunity to actually look at the problem. This same problem may have remained hidden (but no less harmful) for a very long time had we not entered this heightened state of consciousness. Hidden problems can play out in the background of our subconscious minds and do serious harm to our emotional well-being.

So the Present Moment puts us in the right place  and Awareness puts us on the lookout. When these two conditions are combined we enter an even higher state that I call “presently aware.” But this still isn’t enough. Just because we are in the right place and have spotted the problem does not mean we can fix it.

To fix a problem we must understand it—fully. To understand it fully, we must see it for what it truly is. This is mindfulness. Mindfulness is kind of like looking behind the magician’s curtain and seeing that it was all an illusion. When we see things for what they truly are (with the eyes of mindfulness) they lose any power to harm us. In fact, we see right through them and come to the understanding that these things are not real at all. Mindfulness allows us to understand (or better to know) that no problem exists outside our own minds and imaginations. So in the end there is nothing to fix, because the problem never existed in the first place.

We tend to create self-contained stories (I like to call them “reality bubbles”) of why things are happening the way they are. We place judgements and expectations and weave amazing fictions. None of which, by the way, are usually true. We indulge these stories until we get sucked into a well of self-pity, anger or misery. Within these reality bubblesour worst fears are imagined to have occurred or destined to occur.

Mindfulness is the pin that pops the bubble. It reminds us that reality is subjective. The events of our lives are only as real to the extent that we identify with them. The measure by which reality can affect us is directly related to how much we buy into the illusion. Our reality has far more to do with how we perceive the events of our lives, rather than the events themselves.

Try looking at the so-called problems in your life–really look at them. Look at them from a place free of regret or worry. And by looking you may see that the problems you believed were real are nothing more than nasty by-products of your imagination—each one easily and quickly dismissed as an unwanted thought.

The Bad Day Prescription

Bad days—we all have them from time to time, when nothing seems to go right and everything appears to be against us. For me, these days are generally made up of one crappy thing that leads into the next until I find myself in a tailspin and holding on for dear life until closing time.

The next time a bad day threatens your happiness at work (or anywhere else) follow this prescription and knock it out before it can take hold.

A)    Stay Present

No matter what happens, stay in the moment. That means not worrying about what kind of day you would have had if this thing (whatever it is) wasn’t happening. That’s the past. It also means not worrying what might happen next. That’s the future. Consider this: From where you sit in this moment, you cannot reach out and touch the past or the future. Neither the past nor the future exists from our present moment perspective. Yet we tend to live in one or the other most of the time. The present is all we have. And it is from the present moment that we draw our power. It is where our happiness resides.  

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B)     Make Another Choice

Step back from the situation and use all that “present-moment energy” to choose how you wish to handle this event instead of simply reacting. But this isn’t simply any choice. This choice is one that declares nothing is more important than your happiness. Understand that you may not be able to control everything that happens in your life, but you can control how you respond to events. You can make the choice not to give an event any happiness-robbing energy. We give negative events energy in four ways:

1)      Talking and complaining about them.

2)      Regretting them.

3)      Blaming ourselves for them.

4)      Worrying if they will happen again.

All of the above are choices that pull those undesirable events from the past, where they belong, back into the present. Once there, they once again have the power to steal your happiness.  

C)     Slow Down

Take a breath. Step back from the situation for a moment to give yourself the chance to see it for what it “was” –something that has already happened. It’s already in the past. All you have to do is leave it there.  If you slow down, you may be surprised to see just how much power a moment has.

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The next time something threatens your happiness remember these three little things: 1) Stay Present. 2) Make Another Choice. 3) Slow Down.

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Thanks for visiting

Troy

Awareness: One Path to Happiness

Each morning hoards of disgruntled or depressed workers trudge out into traffic dreading the workday ahead. But, it doesn’t have to be that way. In fact, a happier workplace may be closer than you think. And a great first step to achieving a happier existence is to practice awareness.

Awareness is kind of like finding your spot on a GPS screen. It not only tells you where you are, but more importantly, where you are in relation to everything else.

For me, awareness means two things: “Seeing” and “Understanding”.

The first part: seeing, is pretty simple. It’s more of an inventory exercise than anything else. When I first started this process, I discreetly wrote down everything that bothered me in a small “happiness journal” I carried with me. It didn’t take long to fill, either. This step was important because it helped me to be more conscious of those things that threatened my happiness. That way when they occurred in the future I could get one step ahead of the emotion.     

The second part: understanding, grows and evolves out of seeing. To help me understand I had to explore all the things that I wrote down in my journal—things that bothered me about my job, my co-workers, friends and family. Now the trick was to strip away any emotional baggage from the process. I worked hard to place no labels or judgements on these so-called problems.

Just by seeing these things in this way, I gained a greater understanding about them and from that understanding grew a greater sense of awareness. That awareness allowed to see my unhappiness in a new light.

I realized that my unhappiness did not originate from any of these outside sources. The sensation of unhappiness was created at my end as I noticed a “so-called negative event” and made a judgement about it. A philosopher who lived in ancient Greece by the name of Epictetus once wrote: “Men are disturbed not by the things that happen, but by their opinions of the things that happen.”  Think about that quote for a minute. We may create our unhappiness, but we are in charge of our happiness too!   This gives us all the power. When was the last time you went to work filling empowered? Tomorrow morning try to take on a new sense of awareness about the things that have traditionally bothered you. Maybe start your own happiness journal. Ask yourself: Is my unhappiness really caused by others? Or is it more about how I relate to the people and events around me. And remember, you can control that relationship with practice and determination.      

The Sixty-Second Relaxation Technique

Try this quick and easy technique to kick-off your workday right.

This morning when you get into work don’t turn on your computer, check your voice mail or bring out your equipment. Simply sit in your chair for a full minute and do the following three little things…

RELAX

Close your eyes and take in a deep breath.

For the next minute, breathe in and out slowly. Don’t worry about the coming day or that you should be diving right into your work—let all that go.

Continue breathing in and out, slowly.

APPRECIATE

Call up a feeling of deep appreciation for the coming day. Be grateful that you are employed and what you job provides to you and your family.

Continue breathing in and out, slowly.

SET A POSTIVE INTENTION

Set a positive intention for the day. Think a silent affirmation like: “Today is going to be a great day!”  Or “Today, the office will be calm and relaxed.’ Or “I will be able to handle all my work in a relaxed and calm way.”

Do these three little things before starting work and you will be amazed by how powerful a minute can be.

To learn more pick up my book @ “My Happy Workplace” on Amazon.

The First Key to Workplace Happiness: It’s Not About You

We tend to place ourselves at the center of our own little universe in which everything revolves obediently around us. All is well until something happens to interrupt or upset our “order of things” as we believe it should be or when things don’t “go our way”. Problems arise when we encounter the inevitable truth that life isn’t all about us and that there are actually other people in the room. Who would have thunk it? All of whom (by the way) also believe that they are at the center of their own particular universes.

This “ego-centric” view comes from the part of our personality that over-identifies with our own self-interests. The ego declares us above and apart from those around us. As such, it sets up a belief system in which we feel justified to wallow in self-pity and to take everything personally-otherwise known as ‘woe-is-me’ing. 

It is this trap of the ego that endangers our happiness as we buy into the idea that what’s happening to us is real. But scientists have been telling us for years that our reality is subjective. In fact, the events of our lives are only as real to the extent that we identify with them. The measure by which reality can affect us is directly related to how much we allow things to impact us and our emotions.

Our reality has more to do with how we perceive the events of our lives as they unfold, rather than the events themselves. Anything we imagine to be causing us pain, is only just that—our imagination.

Therefore, the more we identify with these “so-called” negative events the greater the impact they will have on our emotions and over-all happiness. Once we realize that our reactions are directly proportionate to how we perceive a thing, we can better regulate the negative response.

As such, it becomes important to reframe the situation so we see things in a neutral light. In this way the negative event loses its power and hold on our emotions. In our mind, the event becomes neither a positive nor a negative—it just is. We come to understand that we cannot control the events outside ourselves, but we can accept responsibility for how we react to them.

“Now, hold on a minute!” you might say. “That is all well and good, but I can’t just decide not to get upset when something bad happens. I’m only human.”

The fact of the matter is that you can (with practice) make a choice and decide to act in a different way— in a controlled and present way, instead of reacting in a way born from negative conditioning.  With even more practice you may even learn the skill of not reacting at all!

“Reality is subjective. In fact, the events of our lives are only as real to the extent that we identify with them. The measure by which reality can affect us is directly related to how much we allow it to impact us and our emotions. Our reality has more to do with how we perceive the events of our lives as they unfold, rather than the events themselves.”

At first glance it may seem odd, even unnatural, to have anything but a negative response to a negative event. Remember, however, that we always have the capacity to choose. That ability is not only vital in maintaining happiness but it is also empowering.  Knee-jerk reactions and impulsivity turn us into victims, holding us hostage to our own reactionary emotions. The empowering approach allows us to take a moment, step back and find our center—our core of peace—you know, that “happy place”. From here we take back our power.

Let’s look at a common example to demonstrate this point.

It’s 4:15pm on Friday afternoon. It’s been a rough week. You’re tired and looking forward to the weekend. Just then, a particularly difficult client walks in demanding to see you. He seems upset and wants service immediately, he begins to swear and act out.

Most people would see the above situation as negative. After-all, it’s only fifteen minutes to closing, you may have to work over-time, the client is being difficult and abusive and your plans are threatened. But it is only a negative if you choose to see it as such—if you make it about you. If you understand that this moment is not about you, you may find yourself better equipped to handle the situation in a more efficient and fulfilling way. So instead of focusing on how this event may affect you, (which will cause irritation and anger) try switching your perspective.

“…it is only a negative if you choose to see it as such—if you make it about you. If you understand that this moment is not about you, you may find yourself better equipped to handle the situation in a more efficient and fulfilling way.”

Put aside all the expectations you might have regarding this situation.  Take a step back and simply accept that you will be working late and that the client may not even appreciate your efforts—let it all go and place your attention where it matters—the present moment.

“But, I don’t want to accept it,” you might say. “I don’t want anything to do with this moment.” Your mind may throw a little hissy-fit too as it mentally digs in. “I won’t give in. I’m right! I should be angry!”

If this is the approach you prefer, that is up to you. But know that all our greatest teachers throughout history have taught that “the present” is all we have. It is from the ‘now’ that we draw power and strength. Resistance, stress and unhappiness come from all sources outside the present moment. Feelings of anger and the need to win are not born of the present. Worrying about, and becoming angry about what has already happened or what might happen is not keeping present. You will be unable to draw any happiness by taking this approach.

Give yourself over totally to this moment. Settle into it like a warm bath, breathe it in if you must and put yourself in the client’s shoes. Try looking at what is truly happening outside whatever expectations you may have had.

A person has come to you for help. Anybody in need of help immediately becomes vulnerable. Vulnerable people tend to have more to lose and thus are afraid. When we are afraid we tend to act rashly—we may even lash out, initially.

In this light we no longer see a rude, trouble maker or someone to be “handled”. Instead we see a person who is afraid and needs help. Typically, when we encounter somebody who needs help we extend a hand, and most times we feel better for doing so. It is a natural human response.

By looking at the situation through the eyes of the client, you are better able to get past the anger and the self-pity and provide service. Because you didn’t make it about “Me”and stayed focused on the present moment you didn’t get drained or taxed by the experience. In contrast, you feel energized and enriched by the experience. In a way, you have opened up.

If this is hard to accept, you need only try this approach the next time you encounter a difficult situation at work.  You will be amazed by the result.

Remember to stay in the present moment. Don’t worry about the past, which is the fact that the client came in at 4:15pm. Don’t worry about the future that may involve you staying late. Let it all go.

Secondly, remember to look at the situation from the client’s point of view—as somebody who needs your help. Do this and you will feel energized, fulfilled and engaged—instead of going home upset and tired.

Remember, it’s never about you.

For more information about creating a happy workplace and a happier life check out my new book: My Happy Workplace at Amazon.  

Five Quick Tips to Have a Great Day at Work—Today.

The next time somebody asks you “How was your day?” wouldn’t it be amazing to say “It was great!”

A happy workplace seems unachievable to many workers with employee dissatisfaction on the rise, but it’s not only an achievable goal, but a relatively easy one—when we take a more spiritual approach to our work day.

1)   Stay in the Moment

Try to do one thing at a time, do it well and move on. Don’t burden yourself with the totality of the day. Remember that you have only one thing to do—that’s whatever you are doing in that moment. Drawing from the past (that you have all this work) or the future (I’ll never get all this work done) will only lead to unhappiness. Your power to generate happiness always comes from the present.

2)   Don’t Turn a Mole Hill Into a Mountain

Things are never as bad as they appear, but we can (by our perception) make them     seem that way all the same.

I have found that when I look at my work as a mountainous chore, it tends to become just that. I fret and worry about even where to start. I think it’s just too much. I may procrastinate and become angry that I have too much to do. I might become spiteful or jealous of my co-workers who seem to have less to do. As such, I fight and struggle with the work all day. By 4:30pm I still don’t have it done and I feel drained and unaccomplished.  But, on those days when I take a different approach and look at the pile before me with “soft eyes”, I see it in a different way. I see the work without all the weight and pressure. I reduce it down to nothing more than a small pile of paper.

3)   Mind Your own Business

Practice “seeing through” the affairs of your co-workers—see but do not react, observe but hold no opinions. By doing so you learn not to dwell on what you feel to be the negative aspects of what you see.

Try going about your day in the quiet understanding that those things happening around you have little to do with you. As Paul McCartney suggested, “Let it be.” Let the comings and goings of others pass through you. Yes, be sociable and engaged, but do not allow yourself to identify with what you see. Take no ownership, make no judgements. Then simply go back to your duties and you may find that you feel more  peaceful and relaxed.

4)   Relax

When time seems to be dictating the pace, turn the tables on the clock and step back from the rush and single out one thing to focus on and give that your full attention.

5)   Are you an Oak or a Palm?

How flexible are you at work? Can you bend and adjust with problems and unexpected events, like a palm tree. Or is your thinking rigid like an oak? Have you allowed your expectations to become hard and unyielding? Has your self-image become solid? In nature, the palm tree bends with the wind. It does not try to stand against it in a show of strength, but bows—as if in subjection. As a result it weathers the storm. Flexibility eliminates resistance that can cause unhappiness.

Workplace happiness doesn’t have to be complicated. It can be nearly instant, if we are will to make a few small tweaks to our work day—you’ll be glad you did.

For more information about creating a happy workplace and a happier life check out my new book: My Happy Workplace at Amazon.                          

Creative Visualization: The Basics

Creative Visualization is a mental technique in which you use your imagination to help create what you want in life. It is a process of “tricking” the sub-conscious into believing that you have already achieved whatever goal you are working towards. It is a form of meditation.

Creative Visualization is a mental technique in which you use your imagination to help create what you want in life. It is a process of “tricking” the sub-conscious into believing that you have already achieved whatever goal you are working towards. It is a form of meditation.

The field of intention or the sub-conscious mind is incredibly powerful, it is the link to our creative power, and it does not discriminate from our likes or our dislikes, or from the so-called positive or negative, the good or the bad. It just reflects back to us that which we give it without judgment.  Nor can it distinguish from what is “actually” happening and those things imagined. This is what makes creative visualization so effective.

You should keep a couple things in mind when using creative visualization.

1) Put yourself in the picture.

Don’t be looking at the scene from the outside in.

2) Make it as real as possible.

Use all your imagined senses. Touch, taste, smell and “feel” what it would be like to be attaining the goal. For example: Is your goal to have that dream home?

Then imagine yourself interacting in the house, cooking dinner, entertaining, cleaning it etc. Try to capture what it would be like to have the home.

3) Visualize often

At least twice a day*, taking the time to focus on the images and feelings of the experience.

*The last and most important thing to remember about Creative Visualization that it should not be done day after day for long periods of time. The purpose is for you to introduce a new paradigm into the field of intention. It sends out a message to the field that you already have a thing and simply gives you more of that. But, if you visualize the same intention day after day, then it is the only act of visualizing which the field of intention delivers—instead of the thing itself. So once you have reached a place in which you can see the desire clearly and know it is yours—release it. Let it go and it will come back to you.

Three Stupid-Easy Ways to Start Your Workday Right.

A happy workplace doesn’t just happen all by itself.  You have to work at making it happen, but it doesn’t have to be hard work. Sometimes the smallest of changes can have big results. Here are three stupid-easy things you can do before your workday even starts that can make all the difference.

1)   Take a breath

Sounds simple right? We take our breathing for granted. Our breath is the link to calmness. When you arrive at work (whether that be at a desk, a bench or a counter) allow yourself one minute of silence before starting to work. Don’t turn on your computer, or bring out your equipment. Just sit quietly and relax—for just a minute. Breathe in and breathe out. No matter how tempted, do nothing else for sixty seconds. Try it; you’ll be surprised what a minute can do to set a healthier, more “patient” tone for the day.

2)   Slow Down

Give yourself enough time to have a leisurely commute to work. Try getting up a few minutes early. This will let you slow down a bit—be less rushed. A short walk before going into work can do wonders to relax and calm you. Maybe you might even get up early enough (once and awhile) to watch the sun come up.

A leisurely drive to work can be a time to relax and experience a little peace and calm.  While driving to work, practice driving slower. Allow other cars into traffic; stop at the yellow light instead of rushing through it. Don’t tail-gate. This will help you set the tone for the day ahead. Otherwise you may arrive at work frustrated and angry and hamper your chances of maintaining a happy outlook.  

3)   Appreciate

Take a moment to really appreciate the fact that you are employed. In today’s economy unemployment rates are high. Fostering an attitude of gratitude for everything your job gives you can be highly beneficial. Marcus Aurelius said this:“Take full account of the excellences which you possess, and in gratitude remember how you would hanker after them, if you had them not.”

For more information about creating a happy workplace and a happier life check out my new book: My Happy Workplace at Amazon.